Review: Intentional Smile

A Girl’s guide to positive living.

Author: Shazia Omar & Merrill Khan

Art: Lara Salam

Publisher: Bloomsbury India

Genre: Self-help

Rating: 4/5

Format: Paperback

Life is a series of hitting rock-bottom and getting back up. No one gets out without being grilled, marinated and roasted. Such is life. But sometimes the weight of the world gets too hard to carry. We lose our focus and sense of self. All of us have hit rock bottom at one point of our lives. However, how many of us have recovered from the fall? With everything that’s happening in the world around us, finding love, joy and happiness becomes an illusion. The silver lining keeps fading till you realize life’s nothing but a big giant pile of dump. It’s okay. Life is made that way. But what if the secret to living a happy life lies within you? What if the power to realize your potential has been hidden inside you all along, only you never considered tapping into the abundance that YOU are? Well, Intentional Smile is one such self-help book that’s going to help you look within and understand that life, after all, is pretty simple.

Shazia Omar and Merrill Khan have co-authored Intentional Smile which is a girl’s guide to positive living( I think the laws applied in this book are universal and not restricted). The book is a journey of self-discovery where gratitude , joy and abundance are the sole factors that make life worth living. Come to think of it; we spend our days whining and sulking about the tiniest things not realizing we’re being ungrateful for the million things that are still going right in our lives. Maybe if we’d take a minute to express gratitude for everything in our lives, our perspective would change. Life’s not as messed up as we think it is.

The book has been illustrated by Lara Salam who has done a tremendous job. It’s very rare to come across self-help books that are so picturesque and easy to follow. Most of the exercises, morning routines, chakras and Meditation cards are self-explanatory and easy to understand. Don’t you love books that are visually appealing?

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I think one of the most important themes in the book is self-love. One of the prerequisites to being a confident person is being happy with oneself. Social Media in this day and age has in a number of ways given false impression to different body types/skin and unreal expectations of how one should should like. Teenagers and mostly young girls are rubbed in a negative way resulting in low self-esteem, failure to accept themselves and lack of self-love. It’s so essential to know that you’re whole just as you are. The book captures and gives readers several practices and techniques to start loving themselves even more.

The journey of self-love begins with loving yourself

There’s a lot of criticism to positive thinking. An underlying impression that positive means staying happy all the time has made it difficult for people to come to terms with their problems. Thinking good thoughts, acknowledging your shortcomings and problems and believing in a better tomorrow is part of being positive. It’s humanely not possible to be an energizer bunny 24/7 but it is extremely important to accept you have a problem and then moving on from there. And how do you accept there’s a problem? You can try EFT or Emotional Freedom Technique. It is a technique to release all your negative feelings by tapping on certain acupoints. There is a clear diagram in the book to explain where your EFT hotspots are.

To free up energy for dream construction, we need to take care of ourselves so we feel good mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically. Don’t neglect your health.

You might think it’s easier said than done, right? But the authors, Shazia Omar & Merrill Khan, have spoken from their persoanl experiences. They’ve fought the demons and risen above it. Shazia Omar is a well-being psychologist and yoga teacher (she’s multi-talented; writer, mom and a believer too!). Merrill Khan is a child counselor, primary school teacher, wife , a mother and mermaid! (Super woman, eh?) Together these two weaved some magic and presented us with Intentional Smile!

Everyone has fears.

Becoming aware of your fears is the first step towars letting them go.

Identify your fears, then choose to let them go.

From morning routines to breathing exercises to setting goals to yoga, this self-help book has it all. And if you’re someone who loves visual representations of things, then, the art illustrations in the book are a treat. Intentional Smile is one book that’ll give you a warm fuzzy feeling from within and help you look at things from a better perspective. Start thinking good things to attract all that is good!

Remember, “You are a blissful warror princess”

 

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Review: Selfienomics

A seriously funny guide to living the good life.

Author: Revant

Publisher: Bloomsbury India

Genre: Self-help

Pages: 191

Format: Paperback

Rating: 4/5

 

What happens when you read a book that is bombarded with memes, hashtags, open dialogues, hard-hitting questions and a desire to perceive the world around you differently? You become enlightened. #Nirvana

One of my reading goals this year was to read self-help books because my life has a tendency to spiral around I decided to rely on people to do that for me. Well, jokes apart, it is a decision that I plan on implementing. I started this road to self-discovery with Selfienomics, a debut novel, by Revant which

a.) Is extremely funny. You know the kind of funny which makes you pause and laugh like a retarded seal?  No? Okay.

b.) Is informative and very well researched. Ofcourse, self-help books are supposed to be researched blah blah. It is well researched in the sense that it is relatable to everyone especially the current scenario of Indians and India.

c.) You get to make a choice. Revant didn’t shove his opinion down our throats instead he paved the way for open-end discussions where you are the sailor and you get to decide the direction. No judgement there.

Selfienomics talks about life in general. Food, Feminism, Politics, Religion and how to read the label off of a food item before buying. Reading the book made me realise that there are a lot of things i’m ignorant about or I consider it extremely trivial for an intellect like me to dwell upon. I was wrong. I think that’s what reading good books are like; you begin to develop the ‘why syndrome’. Why does something happen the way it does? Why are people so stupid? Why am I such an idiot? You get the drill. For a debut novel, Revant has managed to bring burning issues under one umbrella and has successfully tackled them in a delightful manner. I’m going to cite some of my favourite examples since listing all of them is not possible:

Since I have been in the process of job hunting and trying to make a career the idea of Personal Branding stuck to me.

There exists a chicken and egg problem today in relation to jobs and experience. You need a job to get experience, and you need experience to get a job. Don’t let lack of experience deter you from pursuing your interest. No one is born with experience. While experience may often be irrelevant and specific to an industry, your personal brand is relevant across all sectors. When your personal brand is of an individual who is honest and gives his or her best, opportunities are sure to open up. Focus on building your #PersonalBrand and experience will follow.

While we’re on the topic of doing something in life, I can’t help but mention the author’s advice on categorising our goals. Career goals, Moral goals, Bucket Lists, Financial Goals etc. Not only does it help us realise what we truly want but also helps in overcoming the identity crisis that is prevalent with the youth of today. By prioritising, we can be more productive and work towards our dreams.

If you aren’t able to fulfil your own dreams, make it your dream to fulfil the dreams of others.

Speaking of serious issues like Feminism, Patriotism, and birth control, the author tries to portray the harsh reality, the pros and cons of our current situation citing examples and showing where we as a nation stand.

It’s commendable how the author was able to merge concepts of economics and the business world with real life situations. All in all, Selfienomics delivers more than it promised and is a smart attempt at creating a world that is educated and accepting of each other’s differences.

Aim for an open discussion–which encourages criticism as well as allows mistakes.